Life’s A Dance You Learn As You Go
What do I mean by “Life’s a Dance”? Well, life is actually a rhythm of positive and negative instances. Once you understand that rhythm and act accordingly, then the whole act becomes a dance.
Life’s a dance for those who know that there is a tempo in life, and if one persistently catches that beat and swirls according to it, then there will come a time when the whole world will dance according to you.
What you call positive or negative, happy or sad, success or failure, things that inspire you and things that discourage you, things that go according to the plan and the things that don’t, things that lift your soul and thing that smack you in the face—they all are a part of the rhythm of your life.
You Gotta Catch The Rhythm
If someone or something is going against you and if you can observe it patiently then you will notice that they are creating energy in you to fight against it and come out victorious. But you don’t think this way and instead blow that energy off in a meaningless and stupid manner. You take cover in the form of whining and complaining and blaming all the time.
Whenever you say that you are not happy with people who demoralize you or discourage you, or with situations when they get hard, then that means you are not able to catch the rhythm of life.
And consequently, you are not gonna comprehend the “Life’s a Dance” phenomenon, and won’t be able to swing and swirl properly in this game of life. If one understands the beats of the rhythm, they will notice that whenever things start getting hard or people start having second opinions about them, then such instances actually spark a type of energy inside us, to prove the world wrong, to do whatever it takes to exonerate yourself.
Strange, right? Negative things creating energy in us? All you have to do is slightly change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will actually change, for real.
Now, are the so-called ‘negative things’ actually negative? Not quite. If you want you can harness energy from both the ‘positive’ and the ‘negative’ circumstances of life. SO, life is like a battery, where both the positive and negative terminals combine to create the electricity required to run life.
Stop Giving Excuses and Start Dancing
You are not realizing that whatever excuses you are making to quit, are actually blessings in disguise. They are like thrusters that have the potential to push you forward in life and make you thrive. You will realize this at a later point in time, but sometimes people who are your biggest rivals may actually be the biggest reason for your success.
That’s what “Life’s a dance” philosophy is all about.
All kinds of people, whether they supported you or betrayed you, helped you or spatted on your face; coupling with all the situations you encountered so far, has fashioned a piece of music in your life, and the way you have danced to that music is the reason for your current state of life.
If you had just the positive people and positive situations in your life, then the music wouldn’t have been the same, and you wouldn’t have danced the way you did. Playing piano with just the white keys, won’t give the same satisfaction as when both the black and white keys are played together. That’s when “Life’s a Dance” philosophy actually comes to fruition.
When you truly embrace this philosophy then you won’t have any regrets or complaints left, because you realize that it takes both the positive and the negative situations to play the music that you are dancing on currently. It is helping you become the person you want to be.
It shouldn’t matter to you whether the music being played is rock, pop, jazz, blues, or hip-hop—as they all are helping you become a better dancer than you were before. Won’t it get utterly boring and superficial if you kept dancing to the same damn tune all the time? Life’s no different.
You will be called a good player when you master every kind of stroke there is to master. Similarly, you will be called a great person when you will know how to deal with all kinds of situations in life. That’s why this philosophy “Life’s a Dance” is so freaking quintessential.
The Better Way to Dance
There are two ways to dance in life. One is where you prepare yourself for a certain beat or rhythm, and you wait for it to come so that you can showcase to the world your master step.
The other way is where you don’t give a damn what the music is, you are ready to dance whenever, wherever, to any music whatsoever by patiently catching the rhythm and dancing naturally.
Now draw a comparison with life. Most people want to live their lives the former way, where they want to be prepared for the upcoming challenge beforehand, but the problem is, you don’t know what’s coming next. Only when you are ready for each and every situation, doesn’t matter how awesomely good, or how pathetically bad it may seem, can you actually live your life to its fullest.
What’s the big deal about dancing to the very song you practiced all your life for? You didn’t learn anything new and you definitely didn’t increase your intelligence—you did what was already installed in your system. I know it feels comfortable to be in this spot, but hey, growth always comes while being out of the comfort zone.
The real swag, if you ask me, is when a song you haven’t even heard of, is played and you dance, like nobody had ever seen before in their lives. That’s the true essence of “Life’s a Dance” philosophy. The whole world wants to dance to the rhythm they are familiar with, or in other words, they don’t wanna go outside their comfort zones, which is why they will always remain ordinary or mediocre.
Just to be clear, by ‘dance’ I mean ‘actions’ in life. Stop being scared of stepping into the unknown and uncertain. There’s no glory in acting in the ‘known’. You gotta make the unknown known to leave your mark.
Embrace the Unanticipated
People dream about something and they believe that they will become happy when so and so thing happens. Let’s say it does happen, and their wish comes true; but what then? Will it be really fun?
Real fun is when something you didn’t even imagine in your wildest of dreams becomes your reality. It can be both good or bad, and you are still dancing like anything in joy, uninterruptedly, unaffectedly, and unabashedly. That’s where the money is.
There is no happy or sad, positive or negative, in the rhythm of life. That’s just a label we are imposing on it, which is futile. Life isn’t gonna change its tempo for you. Stop blaming your parents, society, or family, for making your life ‘miserable’; they are all acting according to their own nature. Their nature is their rhythm.
Life is the DJ
“Life’s a Dance” philosophy is beyond good or bad, success or failure. It’s like you are on a stage, and life is the DJ. But the catch-22 here is that the DJ is playing and changing the songs according to his own whims, and doesn’t give a rat’s ass to your suggestions.
Now you are left with two choices. One is to stand still and pray that the DJ plays your favorite song. “I will become happy when I achieve my goal”. The other choice is that you don’t know what the future holds. You don’t know how long the DJ will play a song for you. So, all you care about is what is the song currently being played and how well you can dance at this particular moment.
People can’t deal with their failure when they start giving instructions to ‘life’. Life is not the kind of DJ you can give instructions to—he is stubborn with what he wants to play and won’t give two shits about your opinion.
At this party of life, you can either dance or cry. The choice is yours. Even if the song, you were so ardently waiting for, gets played; don’t be under the misconception that it is gonna last forever. It won’t. The goal you wanted to achieve for so long; when it is fulfilled, life will throw another challenge, another song for you to dance on, which again will be something you didn’t anticipate.
So, the ultimate thing to do is to give this DJ a free hand and say, “Alright DJ, show me what you got baby, I am ready!”. When you become absolutely ready to dance to whatever song the DJ has set for you, and you don’t care about how you are gonna look while dancing, then something magical starts happening.
Now sit back and listen to what John Michael has to say:
“Life’s a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don’t worry about what you don’t know
Life’s a dance you learn as you go.”