How to Calm your Mind once and for all?

Probably the single most important question that you should ask, which most of us ask indirectly, is “what particular action should you take in various situations”, to calm your mind!

People say you gotta be peaceful from the inside. So, now if someone comes and starts attacking you or your family physically, then will you let him do that since you are an ardent believer of peace?

Noooo, right? You have to fight in that particular situation!


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So, that is what we are gonna find out in this article, to figure out, how to tackle a given situation to the best of our abilities, in order to keep our minds calm and composed!

We face a dilemma only when there is a doubt about what to do and what not to do. 

Does a cat have any doubt before eating a mouse? Will she ever have a conflict of whether to eat the mouse or not?

Nope, she isn’t gonna think twice before doing that!

Similarly, the mouse won’t have any conflicts. If a cat is coming for him, then he gotta run! If he starts thinking about if he should run or not, then by that time we know what’s gonna happen to him!

Once we think about it, these animals don’t really have a shred of doubt about the actions they take.


Now let me ask you guys a question. All the problems you have in your life, what is that one thing that leads to the inception of the problem?

You yourself!! I mean, seriously. Think! If you only are not there, then there are no problems left, right? 

So, we are the root cause of the problems! I know, sounds super weird and jumbled but makes total sense. Now the question comes, who are we?

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Soul? Body? Thoughts? Feelings & Emotions? A culmination of them? Who the hell are we?

Are we what our parents, families, and friends think about us? Or are we what we think about us all day?

Now, I know what your answer is gonna be! The latter, right? But how can we be what we think about us?

Our thinking keeps on changing with time, with new information! We all had different dreams as kids, and it’s constantly changing as we are growing up!

Are we what we think we are?


Are we what we actually do all day?


We think a lot about all the activities we want to do, but how often do we succeed in it? Isn’t there a huge gap between what we think we can do and what we are actually able to do at the end of the day?

You think you will not get angry again, but you do! You think you will not talk to your ex again, but you do!! We all make huge plans, but rarely do we accomplish them.

We all think “it won’t happen again the next time”, but it does happen, again and again, and again!!!


There is literally a world of a difference between the two. So, everything that changes, your thoughts, your actions, your body, your memories, your feelings, your emotions; you have to ask yourselves whether you are something that keeps on changing?


Are you something that never changes? Think patiently, because it is questions like these, that can calm your mind, once and for all!


Are you the clouds that keep on coming and going or are you the sky that remains as it is? Are you the railway platform that stays at its place or are you the trains that come and go?

If you are the train, then who would watch the numerous trains that come and go all day long!

So, in order to observe the change, there needs to be someone or something that doesn’t change! Savvy?

Take a TV for example. When you are watching television, then millions of pixels come and go, to showcase your favorite program.

Now, the pixels, that are constantly changing, need a fixed background on which they can project themselves. That’s why the screen remains fixed! If there is no screen, then nothing will remain. If the screen also keeps on changing, then how would we observe the actual change?

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Likewise, whatever you experience all day long, at the level of your body, mind, heart, and spirit, there has to be something that doesn’t change one bit.

All you gotta do is ask yourselves, are you the perpetually altering flux, or are you the one that’s witnessing all the change?

If one can actually understand that we are the CONSTANT thing, the one that doesn’t change be able to live like this; then there will be nothing left for you to do, your mind will be absolutely calm and composed.

You are the consciousness that is observing everything and this consciousness doesn’t change! Once you accept this as a fact, not just as a theory but actually feel it practically, then everything becomes a game for you.

Whatever is coming and going in and through the consciousness, your thoughts, feelings, actions, emotions, everything; they won’t be able to overpower the calm of your mind!


Some of you may enquire that if we are the constant, then whatever changes are happening in our lives at any level is ultimately caused by us only?

See, at the body level, 99.9% of actions that are required to keep it running is out of your control. Your thoughts won’t be able to control a thing.

You can’t go and start to think of a better digestion mechanism! These actions are involuntary.

Your breathing requires no thoughts. But we can bring them in and disturb the natural way of breathing which is why it is far better to keep your thoughts out of such departments.


When under stress, anxiety, or excitement our breathing pattern changes because our thoughts intervene with the system. Notice this the next time!

Thoughts can interfere with the digestion process as well. Once we panic or stress about something, our stomach starts acting weird which makes us uneasy.

Therefore it is imperative we keep our thoughts from mingling with the way our body works! Our body is self-sufficient!

Animals have pretty efficient inner-body mechanisms because they are pretty clear with what to eat, what not to eat, how much to eat, and moreover, they don’t a pretty rudimentary language because of which their thoughts don’t interfere with their bodily functions.


We do what we shouldn’t do, and we don’t do what we should do, because the thought interferes in between. We stop eating when depressed, and double down when excited, not giving a rat’s ass to the digestion process.

There should be a clear line drawn between thoughts and intelligence!


On one side is nature’s supreme intelligence, where everything is absolutely perfect and requires no meddling of any kind whatsoever! Right from the ants to the whales to humans, everything is perfect, and is acting according to its nature!

Our lives start with perfection! A new-born already knows that he needs to cry the minute he pops out!

So, what actually disrupts this perfection, when we grow up?




What are ‘thoughts’? How do they come into existence?

Do you think a new-born thinks about anything when he sees your beautiful face?

He sees, but he doesn’t know who is seeing! He hears, but he is not aware of the hearer! The baby doesn’t yet have an identity of his own. There is no “I, me, & myself”, for the baby. A baby has the purest consciousness.

Then fast forward to when he starts speaking; language comes into the picture.


Thoughts can’t exist without language!

That perfect child is then fed with the bullshit that he is the body he resides in! He has been implanted with the imperfection that he is his name, job, money, thoughts, and what not!

All our lives, we go like, “I am correct, I did this, I am right, you are wrong, you screwed up, you betrayed me, etc”

What is this “I” and “you”? These are nothing but thoughts!

The fewer thoughts interfere with the intelligence of nature, the better off you will be in the long run!

Right now, the thoughts are controlling us and making us do things! It actually needs to be the other way around as it was meant to be if you want to calm your mind!

This is only possible when you yourself are not a thought.

But as of now, we are identified with our thoughts only, which is the crux of all the issues!


Wanna know how a ‘thought’ actually comes into existence?

Animals and babies don’t have thoughts as we do! They have a pretty basic structure of it. They just have enough thoughts for survival instincts.

You won’t find animals contemplating things as we do. A female monkey won’t get depressed if she finds out that her partner is having an affair. A deer won’t think twice if he sees a tiger charging toward him, he will just run like never before.

But now it doesn’t mean that you turn into an animal to combat thoughts (wait, we already are one)! People make rash decisions by reading anything on the internet.

So, nooo! You don’t have to go back; you have to move forward! Animals can’t sit and make this inquiry of what is a ‘thought’ like we are right now.

How does a thought take birth?

Whatever information has been installed in your mind, that becomes the basis of all the thoughts you have. Thoughts can’t exist without information! Information is the raw material of your thoughts. Savvy?

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If one hypothetically removes all the information you have, then there will be no place left for any kind of thoughts whatsoever?

“Water is colorless, odorless, tasteless, and formless”. If you don’t have this information, will you be able to think anything about water?

You can still see, feel, and drink water the same way as before, but this time you won’t have any thoughts floating around about water!

If you guys have pets, then notice them. They may hear us but they don’t understand us. They may feel us and see the signs we make but they don’t get our language.

Does a dog think about anything if he watches the TV? It is exactly like watching a movie in a language you don’t understand without subtitles.

You will see, hear, and feel the sensations but you aren’t gonna understand a thing they say!


Now, the question arises, all this information that you have; is this fed by you or someone else? There are many layers to this answer!

One layer of information has been installed into your systems by someone else. The type of information circulated in your friends and families automatically gets embedded in your brain choicelessly.

More than 90% of the information we have, comes to us without our choice, simply because of the people we are surrounded with.

Furthermore, it is not even up to you to decide the people you wanna be with. You don’t get to choose your family. You become friends naturally!

So, ultimately, only 10% of the information you chose yourself, through different mediums like books, internet, blogs, etc. And this 10% makes all the difference.


You see, information is information! There can’t be any thoughts without information. There won’t be any actions without thoughts. And without action, you can’t do anything in the materialistic world.

As you can see, it will be technically incorrect to say that “You did this right/wrong.” You actually don’t do anything. It is the information, out of which a ‘thought’ is born that is making us do everything.

Information acts upon information, not you. One can’t possibly think outside the set of information he has.

To understand all this, you need an absolutely peaceful and calm mind, otherwise, all this will seem like a theory to you.

The best way to have a calm mind is to live a life that is free from this information. IT doesn’t mean you are abandoning it.

The actual meaning of the above statement is that you can use the information as and when required, but the information can’t use you!

As of now, more than 99.99% of the population’s lives are driven by information. You can call it mind, thoughts, or memories; they all are the same.

You beat yourself up, trying to figure out “why do I think so negative?”

But the thing is, you are not actually thinking, these thoughts come on their own, based upon the information stored inside you.

To sum up, I would say, to make your life better, simply improve the information you intake!

Can it solve everything in your life? Not quite.

Because information is the ‘real problem’. Can you see this truth? Nature’s intelligence is not the problem, the wrong information about nature is the problem.


Now the question is what kind of information does one need to be satisfied with his life? Actually, the better question is to ask if one even needs any information or thoughts to live a happy life?

Surely you need the information to be successful in the outside world, but it isn’t gonna guarantee that it will make your mind calm!

So, I will ask again, do we really need any kind of information whatsoever to be happy from the inside? Can one actually be satisfied by thinking that is based upon information?


Take it another way. If you wanna sleep comfortably, so what kind of information will be helpful there? What will you actually think about, that makes you sleep?

Wait a minute, do you need to think to sleep, or does sleep comes the moment you stop thinking? Think about it!

That’s real happiness, real satisfaction. When there are no thoughts left in us, the mind already becomes calm. That is precisely the reason we all love our sleep so much!

Thoughts become useless, as far as happiness, love, satisfaction, and peace are concerned.

You can’t forcefully make your mind peaceful. The more you try to make it calm, the more ripples it will generate!

To put it simply, thoughts are necessary for materialistic success. Without thoughts, you can’t do anything outside. But for the inner world, thoughts are absolutely useless!

Ultimately this itself is a ‘thought’ only.

So, this information basically says that information is useless to calm our minds. We are using thoughts to help us realize that thoughts are useless!! Ironical, right?


Once you see this thought that ‘thoughts are useless’, then you don’t need this thought itself.

Just like when you are thirsty, then you have the thought of drinking water. So, does that thought remain once you quench your thirst? Exactly my point.

Similarly, once you understand this thought that the “thoughts are not required,” to be peaceful from within, then even this particular thought will go away.

Once you get rid of all the nonsensical thoughts, then even though you will see things but you won’t think, you will hear sounds but won’t imagine, you will feel objects without envisioning, you will just be. No judgments, no thinking. Just pure LOVE.

Ultimately this will empower you to see the planet in a completely different light and that will be totally different from how everyone sees the world right now.

Then you will actually experience real happiness. That will actually make your mind calm, FOREVER!




“There are times when we stop, we sit still. We listen and breezes from a whole other world begin to whisper.” 

-James Carrol


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