So, I am sure many of you must have had this pertinent question. What exactly is the “ultimate purpose of my life”, “why am I here?” Especially when you guys are going through some rough phase in your life. When life is going smoothly you would never ponder upon something so important as this. It’s only when something you didn’t anticipate happens that you start questioning God’s plan.
You start wondering whether this pain is all you will ever get in this life or will you ever be able to get rid of your negative thinking?“Am I doomed to gloom?” Don’t worry you are not. So, as far as I can comprehend, I came up with two purposes, life can have.
#Living to Think Restlessly
#Thinking to Live Peacefully
Now before you dive right in, go through that again. Read every word very carefully and ask yourself which purpose are you living right now. You don’t have to stop thinking, you are alive. (which I have a feeling is a lot easier to fathom than to accept that YOU ARE Infinite)
To stop thinking is not the real goal of spirituality; many people have had this misconception that spirituality is somehow related to not think or stop thinking, which is completely false. Thinking correctly; makes you peaceful.
All right so now we have two purposes to choose from. All you have to do now is sit back, relax, and close your eyes; and think, ‘what’s my ultimate purpose of life?’
To constantly keep running from here and there at the level of my mind, getting fatigued at the end of the day; meaningless blabber continuously gripping our brain to do something creative, something meaningful, something of value. Comparing yourself to others, getting jealous, creating hatred, envy, etc; this all comes under living for thinking.
To think correctly involves not asking yourself WHY all the time. Why am I poor, why my wife hates me, why my children don’t love me, why am I ugly.
Instead, replace the WHY with WHAT. What can I do to be rich, what can I do to make my wife happy, and so on. That’s thinking to live peacefully. Sticking to reality. Peace should be the ULTIMATE purpose of life.
One type of thinking instills stress, anxiety, and worry. The other type relieves you of all kinds of stress and makes you more creative in taking the right action. And the best thing?
It all starts by accepting things the way they are. You cannot change the outside world no matter how hard you try. You can’t change your grumpy employer who nags you for being late, you can’t change your face (ok ok I know what you are gonna say), you can’t change your body features. All these are outer things and not under your control, so there’s no need to worry about such things.
Stop asking questions like why does the cat eats the mouse. Why did I get fired from the job, why am I so short? Such questions have only one purpose of their own, to create misery. Now it’s up to you if you wanna help them succeed in their mission of creating sorrow in this world or take a stand and show them who’s the boss of your life. The only thing you have absolute control over is you yourself. And once you shift your focus to what’s beneath you; once you start changing yourself the world around you will start changing and for the good. It’s really that simple.
One of the easiest examples I can give to differentiate the two types of thinking is let’s suppose you are a chubby person.
Now there can be two approaches that you can take.
One is pestering yourself constantly why am I not slim, why don’t I have abs and all. This perspective would create, yeah you guessed it, unnecessary stress in your life, which is actually good for nothing. (well mostly!)
Now the other perspective can be, seeing the reality as it is and accepting it. It’s all right if I don’t have abs, at least I look cute. So what can I do to have a well-toned body? Now just asking this will create endless possibilities. This will shift your thinking from problem-centric to solution-centric. You will start getting answers. And the best part, it’s under your control.
So that’s the right thinking. You should be well aware of what’s right thinking and what’s wrong thinking. Wrong thinking is the one-way ticket to the stressful world while right thinking will take you to Disneyworld.
So now what’s the Ultimate Goal Again?
Everyone has some skills, some hidden talents, some mind(which helps you in thinking); these are all your resources more or less. You need to find who you are! You gotta use the best possible permutation combination of all your resources you can use TODAY to make your life peaceful. That’s it.
By peaceful I don’t just intend your mind. I mean every phase of your life; be it financial, health, emotional, relationships. Not peaceful in the short term, but eternally. Short-term peace comprises going out, partying, drinking, smoking, going on a holiday.
These are just ‘escapes’ from your current situations. The unfortunate part is that most of us consider this joy and confuse this with real happiness. Once you are in the moment you might feel better for the time being but then when you come back to normal life, which you will, you will again become restless and sad.
Becoming happy because of something isn’t the practical solution.
It’s exactly like appeasing a crying child by handing him a toy. But what happens when you snatch it away?
People are exactly like little children in terms of their ‘understanding powers’. They become temporarily happy when they get what they want, but this isn’t genuine happiness. The kind of peace I am talking about is the ultimate peace. ABSOLUTE peace. The type of peace that no power in this world can disturb. UNSHAKABLE peace. This should be the ultimate purpose of life.
Let me tell you something interesting.
We feel real happiness when we don’t think about it. When you are in the moment completely, and not thinking anything is actually when you experience real happiness. Some situations or people or circumstances grab our rather distributed attention from 112 places and accumulate it into one place, the place you like.
What happens is that the thing which we like or love, the minute we come in contact with it, grabs our attention and everything else seems insubstantial. So, it makes you ecstatic for some time. Then if a situation you don’t like grabs your attention then that gives birth to sadness and gloominess.
Extreme likes and extreme dislikes are the main cause of all your problems in life. Your disliking someone is not the problem, your loathing him is. Your longing for a promotion is not the problem, your sacrificing of your heath for the promotion is.
Whatever we do in life, we ultimately want to be happy. The work we do, the relationships we are in, the friends we make, their ultimate purpose is to make us happy at the end of the day, otherwise, what’s the point?
You just have to understand that our very basic nature is happiness only. We are like that of the sky, which stays in its place, but sometimes it gets covered by clouds. Don’t be morose about it. The ultimate purpose of life is to understand that we are not the clouds, we are the sky, which stays at its place no matter what.
So, the next time if you don’t feel good because you got fired from your job or your relationship took a toll or your business incurred a loss or any one of the 112 things that trouble you, you just gotta be like the sky and watch these clouds pass by. No matter how strong the storm may seem or how dense the clouds may appear, when the dust settles, only the sky will remain!
Happiness is the goal of all the goals and is the Ultimate Purpose of LIFE!